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Communicating from the Heart

Rev Barb at Ananda gardens


For many years now, I have been dedicated to creating conscious, honest and connected communication.  My early years were spent with people that were snappy or brisk and it left several imprints upon me as well as an overly sensitivity.  Now that I have done a lot of inner work, I grown in different ways than my early family and mentors.  That does not mean that I am perfect at it nor does it mean that I am always charming, overly enthusiastic or bubbly in my relationships. It is a practice and I know that I am enough.  What it means is that I am mostly conscious, I am doing my best and I am being authentic in my communications with others.  I speak, listen and take actions from my heart and I am dedicated to making course corrections as I go and I am being genuine in my connections.

We know when we have not had a successful connect and communications with others. There is a distance and a lack of harmony.  The communication is not at all heart centered and we do not feel a connection.  It feels like a wall is in the way.  When I feel the frustration of not being more effective, this feeling inspires me to call upon Spirit and I release it as best I can.  I address the situation with my most authentic attention, and I have practices that ground me in my heart and it does affect my communications and relationships in divine timing.

When I am tired or not feeling as good as I can, I notice that the energy of a genuine connection is missing and it leaves me feeling disconnected.  When I make a heart centered connection with myself and others, I have a greater feeling of being whole, genuine and it boosts my self respect.

This week, perhaps you are willing to practice heart centered communication with the people in your life.  It is well worth the outcome and saves a whole lot of energy that is wasted in second guessing ourselves.

Know that You are Loved.  Blessings,  Rev. Barb

Conscious Pauses

DSCN2049Do you always pause before taking action?   If you naturally pause and are consciously aware before you speak and take action you are in the minority.   Many of us had to work really hard to engage this skill and most of us are still working toward mastery.   If you share your thoughts spontaneously, speaking before you think about the consequences or the impact that your words might have upon others… then you probably suffer the results in many ways.

I used to defend my right to speak my mind and share my feelings.  I realized over the many years of having to eat humble pie frequently that I had to stop this outward flow of my current perception.  My automatic triggers and opinions have caused a considerable amount of trouble through-out my life.  Even after many years of working on this, there are times when my un-tamed inner reactions can get the best of me.  This is particularly true in stressful moments, when I am tired or in vulnerable situations.  That is when I  feel less capable of screening my thoughts and I might slip into an auto-pilot mode.

Conscious practice of mindfulness and meditation helps us manage the results of living in our fast paced culture.  This is so important to me because I know that if I am not fully aware, my emotions can be hijacked. If I loose it and share something I don’t feel good about sharing, I can end up feeling upset with myself, feel less than and have to forgive myself for being human…. again.   I don’t want to live unconsciously so I do my best to stay aware of what is going on in my thoughts, feelings and in my reactions.  I work at the practice of “conscious pausing,” so I can attune myself with Spirit.  I pray that Spirit will wake me up when I am in a blind spot or slipping into the fog of delusion.

How do you handle yourself in when you feel caught up in challenging moments.

Know that you are Loved!  Rev. Barb

Darkness dissipates in the Light

life coach**, spiritual counseling, spiritual counseling, life coach nevada city, spiritual counselor nevada city, wellness coach , christian counseling, spiritual therapist, online counselingAll negativity, thoughts or attitudes are dissipated in the sun of your faith. All challenging situations, like a fire, are distinguished by the waters of the spirit of the indwelling Presence.

If you are having a challenge that is bothering you today, I know it can push you up against the wall of resistance, and feel like it won’t go away. I promise you, if you ask Spirit… the support will be there to help you through it to a better internal place.

I have had times when the darkness surrounded me, and it seemed like a thick fog was blocking my vision and hopefulness. When my focus is on Spirit, I know that God is at the center of everything and I will be guided to the light if I seek it. We are protected by the omnipresent and omnipotent power and presence. We must call upon Spirit and the help will be there.

Everyone has a right live in joy. We call forth the harmony and inner peace, and it will come as we dwell in the Divine Presence. Jesus guided us to ask, seek and knock. Ask for the awareness of your partnership with Spirit today. Seek to feel it, see it, and increase your awareness of the many ways that Spirit can guide you, and help you with whatever is blocking your sense of peace and balance. Knock on every door that Spirit places before you. Do the best that you can and the help will be there for you.

You are never alone. All darkness will dissipate in the sun of your Faith. You are deeply loved and the fire of your concerns will be drenched in the waters of your spirit.

Know that you are loved, Rev. Barb

Observing our Thoughts

DSCN2024How are you feeling today?  Right this minute, I am beginning my day choosing to have a good day, one where I am aware of the energy that I am using to create this day.  I know that what I will have is seeded by what I accept.

As I look within myself and see the flow of my thoughts and the direction of my actions, I can see what has influenced the nuances of my life.  Are you willing to take a look at your creations as well?  Join me in exploring the creative tendency of your thoughts.  Please make sure that you explore your thoughts without blame or shame.

If I am not feeling attuned to Spirit and on top of my game, I am compelled to look for the thoughts, beliefs and attitudes that have led to the feelings I am having.  I know the power of my emotions to feed the unconscious and if I want to create a happier day with better results in my life, I have to pull the weeds of resistance to allowing myself to have the good that everyone deserves.

Why would we resist having what we want?  It is not a conscious out-picturing or a direct result of deciding not to experience our good.  It is a deeply seeded habit of belief that has not been dissolved from our unconscious.  Sometimes we create so much of our lives from a strong belief that there is not enough,  that we cannot have it better or from what is missing instead of focusing on what we do have and what we are, and what we can do with that.

Being grateful for all that is in our lives, we open the door of possibilities instead of the opposite.  All thoughts are creative and we do choose our thoughts.  If you are feeling like a fog is surrounding you, then it is time to bring in the light of the sun.  Call forth the wisdom of the divine within you and you will soon see what needs to be pulled from your mental household.  You can do this.  Choose better thoughts!

Where our thoughts go, our energy flows!  That is one of those revealing statements that really shines the light of reality for me.  Perhaps it will support you in creating a day that blesses you and the others in your life.  That is conscious co-creation with the Source of Life.  I turn to the Presence and ask for direction in leading my life where I can make a difference in the lives of others as well as in my own.  I know I cannot do this alone, even though I am responsible to point my thoughts in a positive and up-lifting direction.  If I need help doing that, I call upon Spirit to lift my vision out of the effects to the causal level where all change and direction takes place.

You are a child of God, deserving of your good.  Create a day of love, joy and service.  Plant seeds that hold meaning for you that will bless you and those in your life.

“We do not change all of the patterns of our thought in a moment. Rather, it takes place little by little, until gradually the old thought patterns become transformed into new ones by some inner alchemy of the mind, the operation of which we do not see but the manifestation of which we do experience.” ~ Ernest Holmes

Know that you are Loved!   Namaste,  Rev. Barb

God meets us where we are

It was 4:30 am and I woke up.  I had a couple of voices speaking through me.  One voice within me said, go back to sleep and Spirit said, get up and write.  This is a great time to write and I knew it was God prompting me to resume the flow that was evident yesterday.   I asked for help to write more consistently and I am getting that help right now.  I need to be willing and cooperative and invite the muse into my consciousness.

My role in this process is a willingness to explore the thoughts that want to come through me.  I have invited Spirit to express through my life, my writing, speaking,  teaching and I am always looking for opportunities to be of ever greater service.

Sometimes the flow is really coming forth and there are also times when it barely trickles out of me.  What I am realizing is that I have to keep my mind open and I must be very willing to receive guidance.  That is when the flow and energy meet up with whatever wants to be expressed through me.

Any self limiting thoughts restrict the energy and then suddenly I have nothing to say.  When I can just trust that I am connected to a limitless resource and it wants to share itself with me, the chances are good that something worthy of expressing will makes its way on to my page.

If you are working on writing or any creative project, just know that the universe is using you as an instrument.  God or the creative source is the “Doer” and I am a willing partner in the process.  You can be one any time if you are ready and willing.

Know that you are Loved,  Rev. Barb

Changing Seasons

Living in California, where I was born and raised after so many years in Ohio feels so good for my soul. I love living in spiritual community and sharing the processes that we naturally go through as we go deeper into our practices of truth.  It always prompts us to face the reflection in the lake of the collective spirit.

Being in nature helps me realize what is true within me.  I see life all around me.  Being able to look up and see the stars at night sooths my soul.   Where I live is a very vibrant and changeable environment.  We see the best and the worst in one another.  If we can remember it is all a part of a greater process, we can enjoy the process so much more.  It is just a few months short of a year now.  Living in the midst of nature heals me in so many ways.  It is great for my spirit and yet it has been very challenging to find work until recently.  One has to learn to live wisely.

One of my life long learning opportunities involves mastering my feelings and emotions around living wisely, frugally and making good decisions.  Even though others often see me as confident, I have struggled with my self esteem, my attitudes, thoughts and emotions.  If you have been working on your own growth, you know that there is definitely a learning curve in mastering them.  I have had to become a rigorous and dedicated observer of my own thoughts and how they trigger emotional waves, the ups and downs that have shaped the way I have lived and responded to my life.  I have let others opinions of me drive my life.  I am not willing to be hold myself hostage to this kind of thinking any longer, yet feelings can be tough to release completely.

So I will likely have things pop up for me in the days ahead.  And I will feel the challenge of centering myself in my truth one more time.  I may need a little time out to restore myself to the truth and release the imprint of at least one lifetime of feeling less than, or not enough, and rise above the appearances and habits that leave us feeling vulnerable in the midst of change.  The good news is I am getting more courageous as the days go by.  The struggles are less intense and my spiritual practices help me remember that who I am has nothing to do with outer things, material things,  other people opinions of me, my career, the ways I am treated by others, if I am married or not, if I have a nice home or live in a simple dwelling.  Those are all choices, focus’ and beliefs and have nothing to do with who I am and my value as a human being.  They do not make me who I am.  Who I am was created by God and no one and no thing can change that

Emotionally Free

tulipsEvery day is another opportunity to live emotionally free lives!

Do you have those moments in your life when you feel waves of emotion coming over you? I have noticed that they just show up in an instant, most of the time without any warning, and then I am feeling an emotional high or low depending on the situation, circumstance or gut response that is triggered.

Both science and wisdom teachings reveal that we all have ancestral patterns and reactions that we have inherited. We have all been well trained in patterns from our immediate family and lineage that includes tribal environments. I have come to realize that many of these patterns and reactions are passed on through our DNA, which challenged my perceptions at first because of my personal intention and desire to overcome some of my own life lessons. Yet it does make sense to me as I pay attention to myself and others.  I’ve noticed things that seem so tenacious and stubborn in our behaviors that have to be deeply rooted.

Sometimes I get a strong gut feeling that seems to come at me from “out of the blue” and if I’m in a good place I can let it fly right by me without identifying with it, whether it is positive or negative. If I am in an especially vulnerable place, I can have a more difficult time breaking free of the triggered mind chatter that still exists in my unconscious mind. This is one of the areas of healing that I am dedicated to helping others become free of also. Each day I claim greater emotional freedom from the patterns that closes me and others off from the joy that is ours by divine right inheritance. What I know in my heart is that we must do the work and earn the right to this emotional freedom, as Rickie Byers Beckwith says in her song, “There are no hitchhikers on the highway to God.”

Every day, I practice the presence and I work on myself on many levels of my life. It is my Dharmic or life path to pay attention to the self talk, inner feeling tones, vibrations and energy and move all of my energies into a more affirmative and empowering framework so that I can live a more spiritually liberated life.  I am here to share spiritual life tools with you to help you travel your spiritual path with greater ease and grace.  I dedicate each situation that comes up in my life to Divine Mother and the Holy Spirit and ask for help from my Higher Holy Spirit Self to help me transmute the energy for my own sake and for the sake of all those that I share my path with.  We do not heal alone.

When we focus our mind and thoughts between our eyebrows at what is called the “third eye” or that place where our “eye can be single,” we are helping ourselves align with our higher selves.  It is a natural part of us that is one with all that is, many call it the place where we connect with the Christ or Buddah nature.  Everyone has this very same connecting point within them.  No one is missing it.  It is our entry spot or place of engagement with our higher selves.  That is why part of the Yoga practice is to actively engage the focus on the 3rd eye.

There are many obstacles that we will encounter and I will be sharing some of the common ones in part two of this blog. The obvious ones are doubt and neglecting our daily spiritual practices. There are also consequences that are triggered by our emotions that can trap us in feelings and repeated patterns that cause us to miss out on the benefits of our spiritual journey. Never give up. As long as you never give up and know that God won’t ever give up on you, you will continue to grow.

Know that you are deeply Loved by God and by me.

Love, Rev. Barb