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Is your Ego your friend? Part 3

DSCN2500I grew up thinking that developing a strong ego was a good thing.  What my spiritual journey has revealed is that it is really about how I protect myself from what I fear.  All of the many ego identifications are often about what we like or what we dislike.  Whatever we identify with will always create fences that define our limitations and block others out.  We all have oodles and bundles of self definitions.  We just do not recognize them as that.

The ego takes sides and expresses the color, shape and size of the conditions or boundaries that we feel that we need or choose.  It might not be very obvious that we are doing our best to be safe from whoever or whatever is in control.  It is what sets us apart from the other souls on the planet who have more or less than we do.  They might live in other countries, cultures or economic realities.  We create fences with so many of our thoughts, beliefs and current comforts.

We construct brick fences, or thick concrete fences, or high barbed wire fences, or electric fences, and even glass or clear transparent ones.  What they all do is say “do not enter” or “stay away.”  They are all constructed to block others out.  They are all how we limit ourselves and convince ourselves in believing we are “safe”.  It is what we imagine or think will keep us safe.  It is our fear that is actually triggering us.

The fences can be economic, social, cultural, racial and they often translate into divisions.  They invoke feelings that mask the Soul.  In our souls we are one.  In the heart of God we are one.

When the hurricanes head into an area of the world – they come to everyone regardless of the economic or social circumstances.  It blows its ravaging winds upon everyone in its path. The rich might be able to escape more quickly if they have the means available to them, and sadly the poor and sick are not as easily served.

Only Spirit within us can set us free.  When we identify with God and choose that energy that lifts us toward our higher self, we have an opening to possibilities

The great Spiritual Master – Paramhansa Yogananda said that limitations are like putting on a heavy coat on a extremely hot summer day.

All of these fences are “agitations of the heart.”  This kind of thinking can only mislead ourselves.  It does not help and only disturbs the mind and body with the conditions and beliefs that we fool ourselves into believing.

Lets keep working on healthy thoughts, beliefs and actions.  It takes more work when we are caught in fear but the outcome is so much better in the long run.  Do not give up.  You are doing so much better than before you realized what was blocking your higher good.

Know that you are Loved,   Rev. Barb Walley

 

 

 

 

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Walking Through the Storm:

I was having a particularly challenging morning today and it was triggered by the news that I read on the internet.  I was just browsing my emails and not guarding my sensitivity level because it was early and the brazen and aggressive news hit me smack dab in my heart and my head.  I immediately felt restless and nervous about what is happening to our beautiful planet, our country and the many innocent souls who are the hardest hit by greed and ignorance.

When circumstances, people or situations hit us over the head because we were caught off guard, it is very useful to have a few time tested tools available to apply to our current mind set or we will be drawn into the energy, emotional drama or the dominant attitude being expressed.

I noticed that I was feeling anxious and my plans for the morning had been ease and grace, doing my meditation, staying centered and calm and the opposite had been triggered and I had an insufficient screen in place.

Once again, God brought me to a challenge that was going to stretch my inner life skills to work through the feelings of fear and insecurity that came up when I read a few of my emails.

I realized that I was barely alert and I needed to be kind and accepting of myself where I was at, in the moment.  Not that I should pamper myself and play out “poor me” scenarios.  I was aware that I needed to be compassionate and conscious and I needed a healthy strategy to find a way to gently shift my gears.

I went for a short ride with my dog to Masters Market at Ananda Village and picked up one of my favorite breakfast sandwich’s and then shared some extra fresh tomatoes I had with a friend.  If we are too absorbed in our own suffering it is time to give more generously of ourselves to others.   I made a decision to switch out of a self absorbed mind set and decided to give my energy to help someone else because I was not supporting myself at all.  Giving of ourselves when we are moody, frustrated or upset is the best way to utilize our misdirected energy.  Be generous with our lives and we simply can’t  out-give God or the universe.  With a loving and empowering attitude the energy will shift and change as you walk through the storm.

Know that You are Loved…    Rev. Barb Walley

What we Resist – Persists

heart math, what is heart math, spiritual counselor, spiritual counseling, spiritual growth, emotional freedomHaving an open heart around our hidden resistance, helps us to gently approach the inner blocks to our greater good.  Are you willing to get a handle on yourself and open up to your greatest potential?  The benefit shows up in my life when I am willing to look into the mirror of my thoughts, attitudes and feeling and see what I am resisting and open up my heart and surrender to the growth that is most needed.  I seek to create a coherent balance between my heart and my mind.

If we are ready and prepared for growth, we wouldn’t need the universe to “push us with pain,” because we would be willing to go where the resistance is.  We are being guided by our higher selves that will keep us on the treadmill until we open up the doors within us that we have glued shut.

My greatest gift comes when I am being receptive to Spirit every moment I can.  The divine shines the light of awareness and it is up to us to be open, flexible and willing.

In the silence of our own hearts, we can reach an inner peace as we face the places in ourselves that we still need to grow in.  Be willing.  It is so much easier to be open to the guidance that Spirit is always providing.  All of our challenges are a call to our Higher Selves.

Know that you are Loved,   Rev. Barb

Integrating our Life Lessons

DSCN2146Are you noticing emotional patterns in your life?  I have realized that my life serves up some of the same lessons over and over.  This is one of the more obvious indicators that there is something going on that we have yet to glean the wisdom from the situations and circumstances in our lives.

When we keep having similar situations come up in our relationships, our work environments, our sense of self-esteem, or we see our own reactive attitudes and feelings… we are always the common denominator.

It is no secret that we are living in challenging times.  That is why I chose to focus on this topic because I am noticing that many people are having a difficult time with the changes happening on so many levels.

I find myself practicing my breathing exercises more often when stresses come up in my life. They really help me.  I take two swift and deep inhalations through my nose and I exhale those two focused breaths through my mouth.  A few rounds of that exercise helps me release the accumulated stress that I can feel when I am observing myself in the midst of a change that has not completed itself.

We heal and change in stages.  If we are intentional about healing the patterns within us that are obstacles to our happiness, joy and inner peace, we will grow.

Being fully awake and aware while “in the process” is not at all easy in fragile moments.  Self doubt and age old fears can come up.  They are recurrent patterns that we have blocked from our self realization. If we do not accept the lessons into our awareness, we build another layer of resistance, which is a magnet for anger, sadness and isolation.

I work at staying conscious of my process, especially in moments when I know that I am not at my best.  As soon as I can, I go within and question myself without judgement.  I ask myself if I am understanding what is going on within and around me.  Are my perceptions true?

I must ask Spirit for help. My daily practice is to do my very best to stay attuned to God.  To continue to grow spiritually I must understand myself and the others in my life.  That takes availability.  I have to open my heart and mind and energy centers to a greater picture of what is actually taking place and move the energy to the next level in my process.

On a soul level we lack the information that we need to process the situation.  Maybe I am needing more love and compassion for myself and others.   Maybe it is just the mirror of my past floating through my awareness and if I can bless it and release it to Spirit and ask for guidance… the compassionate creative medium … Divine Mother…. will help me see the bigger picture in due time.

Like the Buddhist path reminds us.  We need to be aware that we are suffering.  Having the awareness and opening ourselves to see the patterns is a doorway that leads us to our next stage of our growth and transformation.

Know that you are Loved,  Rev. Barb

Listen to Your Heart

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Our hearts can be opened in so many ways.  It has a inner awareness that nothing in the outer world can come close to. Our hearts are lifted in joy, are expanded with love, cracked open in grief and elevated on a deeply attuned spiritual path.  We can influence our hearts awakening by the intentions we hold, yet the deeply moving and transformational growth comes from a higher place within us.   .

Sincere and authentic service helps to create new pathways in our brains that support the expansion of our hearts to to needs of others.  When we serve a higher purpose than our egos, our wants, our goals…. we can step on to an invisible bridge that is made of light.  The transcendental light of love builds bridges and heals wounds that nothing in this world of density can compare to.  Trying to understand the realm of the “heart” from our head is useless.

Everyone has the capacity to open their hearts.  Recently my family had our collective and individual hearts cracked open when one of our family members committed suicide.  It threw us into an emotional vulnerability that waves across our hearts and brings up feelings of guilt, regret, sadness, and an endless list of “what if’s.”   Everyone of us asked ourselves why we did not see this coming.  What could I have done that would have helped or even stopped this tragedy.  There are many things in life that are completely out of our control.

If we listen to our hearts beyond the grief and ask for help from Spirit… eventually we will find an inner peace and acceptance of the choices that life is revealing.  We don’t choose these experiences and would never invite them into our lives, and no one ever plans for them.  Never the less, there is a light shining in, around and through them that is leading us beyond the pain and suffering that is showing up in our life time.

May the power of Spirit guide your way.  Know that you are loved.   Rev. Barb

May Love Shine Forever

DSCN2500One of my favorite places to breath and reflect is at Lotus Pond at Ananda in Northern CA.  When it is in bloom, as you can see, it is an amazing joy of beauty.

The Divine with pull us out of the very mud of our own creations and draw us into the clear air of Spirit.  Wherever we are in any moment of time, if we are not feeling joy and love, we are not attuned fully to Spirit. Our intellects may be engaged, yet if our hearts are not also fully in tune with Loves Presence, we are hopping on one foot simply trying our best to keep in balance.  It takes a lot of effort.

Parmahansa Yogananda said to “Enthrone joy in the sanctuary of all of our aspirations, noble actions and noble thoughts.  Then we will feel God as joy reigning in the kingdom of your soul, laying His scepter on the white altar of your dreams to make every thought, feeling and memory a flower blooming there.”

God is everywhere and we can see and feel the beauty of Spirit and the ever present goodness that exists everywhere, simply because God is everywhere present.  We come from that which is everywhere present and as we embrace that more fully, life blooms like the picture of the pond that you can see.

Parmhansa Yogananda had a beautiful prayer that he prayed for himself.  He said that it was the only one that he prayed on his own behalf.  It is:  “Heavenly Father, may Thy love shine forever on the shrine of my devotion.  May my devotion for Thee forever burn on the altar of my memory, and may I be able to kindly love for Thee on all altar hearts.”

With that sweet prayer I hope that you too find fulfillment in your relationship with the Divine.

Joy and Blessings.  Know that you are loved!  Rev. Barb

You Are Enough!

DSCN2043You can feel good about yourself!  You can feel more confident and certain about who you really are? Even if you have to work really hard to feel OK about yourself today, you can make progress and grow beyond the limitations you might be feeling about yourself and your life. Continue reading